Lay Down a Living Sacrifice, Scrip Pic

Lay it down before the Lord!

Cast all your cares upon the Lord, for He cares for you!
– I Peter 5:7

Unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies,
it remains only a single seed.
But if it produces many seeds.

- John 12:24

Living Sacrifice

Therefore, I urge you, brothers,
in view of God’s mercy,
to offer your bodies as living sacrifices,
holy and pleasing to God–
this is your spiritual act of worship.
- Romans 12:1

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Intimacy in Leadership? Doesn’t that Mean Weak Leadership?

The Value Intimacy Brings to Leadership

Strasbourg Cathedral, France

Strasbourg Cathedral, France

Leaders need to lead with confidence in the identity and vision God instilled within them. If they try to head a group by “just being their friend,” they’ll prove unreliable in their leadership responsibility to move the group into the vision.

By using the term, “intimacy in leadership,” we’re not talking about that kind of weak leadership.

Jesus showed deep intimacy in leadership with His disciples, and Jesus was in no way a weak leader.

What, then, constitutes healthy intimacy in leadership?

While Jesus humbled Himself as a servant to wash His disciples feet, He still retained His delegated position as their “Teacher and Lord” (John 13:13). Jesus lead the discussion according to the purpose and vision from His Father. He didn’t acquiesce to Peter’s resistance (see John 13). Jesus maintained His leadership authority while at the same time participated in intimate fellowship with His disciples.

Remember the several “layers” of intimacy Jesus developed among His disciples. On the outer layer He had “the 70″ whom He sent out (Luke 10:1), then in the middle He called “the 12″ (Matt 10:1-4), and He especially related to the “inner 3″ – Peter, James and John (Mark 5:37).

Many speculate on why Jesus focused on Peter, James and John. I believe these three sought the heart of Jesus more than the others, so Jesus met them in their desire to know Him. In the same way, we can mentor those we lead with intimacy according to their desire to relate to the God-given heart and purpose of our group.

We can follow Jesus’ example, to first of all maintain deep intimacy with Father God, and from that relationship, extend the power of intimacy–oneness of heart and vision–to those we lead.

What values does intimacy bring to leadership?

  1. Embracing a “fatherly” or “motherly” anointing of care toward those we lead can help them develop a greater ability to trust and relate in healthy ways–to both Father God and other people. Greater sensitivity to God and each other leads to increased security and significance in the group.
  2. Sharing ourselves, our heart, vision, and friendship with others in a transparent way fosters trust that leads to loyal alliance in difficult times.
  3. Two-way, transparent and vulnerable relationship releases value and confidence toward creative innovation and group synergy.

In their MP3 Intimacy, Keith Yoder and Don Riker outline Patrick Morley’s five stages for developing intimacy: appointment, relationship, trust, obedience, and service. They also challenge us with scriptural examples of intimacy, and the necessity of intimacy for healthy life and leadership. Click here to download your copy.

– Genesis 5:23-24; Exodus 32-34; I Samuel 16:7; Psalm 131; John 5:19-23; John 13; I John 5:20

- Patricia Tillman, derived from Intimacy, MP3 by Keith Yoder and Don Riker from Legacy Leadership Series

4 Ways to Rebuild Trust in Your Leadership

Damaged Trust in Leadership

Falsely AccusedWhen Peyton first took the position as director, his production team welcomed Peyton for his experience and fresh vision. For several years, things seemed to go well.

But what happened? People still respect him  as a person, but Peyton noticed a growing undercurrent of resistance to his leadership. He knew he wasn’t perfect. He also knew as a visionary leader, he often overlooked the details that others took so seriously. But he never thought that would breech trust in his leadership. He knew he needed to do something to re-establish trust.

Trust in Leadership over Time

Trust in Leadership over Time

The chart to the right, (from the handout included with our MP3 on Trust,illustrates a common trend in leadership trust.

When leaders first takes a position, people generally give them the benefit of the doubt, waiting to see how effectively they lead the group. As the upper orange line indicates, over time, if a leader has trustworthy character, people will continue to respect him or her as a person. But over time, they also begin to experience their leader’s flaws. If leaders make no change, or neglect dealing with trust issues as people respond to their mistakes or shortcomings, then mistrust can develop, as indicated by the dip in the blue line.

As leaders, we have a number of changes we could make to reverse the downward trend and earn the people’s trust.

1) Always the only priority, build relationship with God.

Through listening prayer and scriptural meditation, as we strengthen our sensitivity to and fellowship with Christ, we will:

2) Work out Relationships by Taking Full Ownership of How Our Leadership Has Hurt or Undermined Others

  • Listen carefully to people in order to fully relate to and acknowledge how our leadership has hurt or damaged them
  • Take full responsibility for what we’ve done by asking forgiveness and making changes for greater sensitivity in working relationships

3) Give the people space to recover trust

4) Take a risk to surround ourselves with people who have the abilities that we lack

  • Make sure the people are themselves trustworthy, teachable leaders before hiring them
  • Keep an attitude of humility that allows space for their skills to grow, even if they rise above your own

Leadership is a trust, given by God as a gift to people. It’s not easy, but it’s good, and worth our intentional effort to develop healthy trustworthy leadership.

-I Chronicles 9:26; Psalm 37:3; Proverbs 31:11;  Luke 16:10-12; Ephesians 4:28; I Timothy 6:20
- Patricia Tillman, review of Trust, MP3 by Keith Yoder, Teaching the Word Ministries

Good Things from the Father of Lights… Scrip Pic

Our God is a good God.
Untamable, uncontainable, unfathomable, unquenchable, yes.
But very, very good.
Father of Lights
Receive God’s gift of truth.
Receive His gift of forgiveness and cleansing.
Receive His gift of unconditional love.
Receive His gift of righteousness in Christ.
Receive the gifts of His Kingdom…
peace, joy, kindness, goodness, faith, security, spiritual authority…